Tips to Boost your Daytime Dating Success

When I first started going out to meet women I might have spoken to a woman for twenty minutes and hardly be remembered when I followed up with her. On the other hand, there are now beautiful women I have dated after having an initial interaction with that was under a minute. Despite the brief interaction, these women remembered exactly who I was when I followed up with them, and associated positive feelings with me.

This article will give you some practical advice you can immediately start applying in order to stand out from the crowd and be successful.
Let your passions shine through
If you’re not living an interesting life, then it won’t matter how you present yourself to women over the long run. No matter what clothes you wear, how much money you have, or what car you drive, women will not want to spend time with you.
The best way to become an interesting person is to find your passion in life by living out your dreams. If you need inspiration, watch Randy Pausch’s “Last Lecture” on YouTube, or pick up the book by the same name. Another great book to read if you feel like you haven’t done enough in your life is Yes Man by Danny Wallace. The hero of the story realizes one day how boring his life is and decides to say “Yes” to every opportunity that presents itself to him for a year. It’s an inspirational story and I think we can all learn from it.
Do something unexpected
When something unexpected happens to a person, they are more likely to remember it. Most people do not remember their commute to work on any given day. That’s because 90% of the time it’s always the same. However, if there was a big fire at a building you always pass on your commute, you can be sure that day’s commute will not be soon forgotten.
This is why when you read about the adventures of Love Systems dating coaches it seems like we often do or say such random things. Since it’s different, it catches people’s attention, and it’s memorable. However, doing something different does not necessarily mean doing something outlandish, and it definitely does not mean doing something weird (unless you really know what you’re doing).
Approaching a girl on the street to tell her that you really like her style and that you had to come over to find out some more about her is different. First, it’s different since she is not used to strangers approaching her in the street. Second, the approach method is different – instead of hooting and hollering you are being bold and direct, yet in a respectful manner. By becoming more memorable you’re inherently increasing your odds of success when you follow up.
Be Congruent

To have credibility with a woman (especially a beautiful woman that is choosy), you must be congruent. Being congruent means that you have behavior that is consistent with the identity you portray. If you display a particularly personality trait (for example, integrity), congruence requires that you act in a manner consistent for someone that has that trait. I cannot stress the importance of this enough. Women are not stupid – they will notice if you act in an inconsistent manner, and it will severely damage your credibility with them. Do not try to be something you are not.

flirt dating

You're hanging out at a party when, out of nowhere, you suddenly notice someone standing close to you.  In fact, you realize he or she keeps turning up nearby, trying to catch your eye. The two of you start talking and your new friend smiles, laughs, finds excuses to touch you and holds your gaze. This person is clearly flirting with you. How do you know? Because, although you may not realize it, you are already an expert in flirting and body language.
Flirting Demystified
What would dating be without flirting? Flirting is fun, it signals that we're interested in someone and it initiates most successful relationships. Flirting means giving someone your full attention; it means smiling, touching and playing. In the right circumstances, it is a powerful tool. In the wrong circumstances, it can lead to embarrassment and be a complete turn off.
For most people, flirting comes naturally. Many forms of flirting are simply outgrowths of the way you behave when you meet someone you really like and are interested in having a romantic relationship with. However, some flirting is more subtle, making it hard to tell whether you're reading something that's not there into an interaction simply because you want the other person to flirt with you.
For these reasons, it's useful to examine some of the key indicators of flirting, which can prove extremely helpful when trying to figure out if the person across the table is interested in you – and help you express your interest in them!

Body Language

• Prolonged eye contact
• Dilated pupils
• Arched eyebrows
• Winking
• Rapid eye movement and blinking
• Stroking or toying with hair
• Smiling
• Licking of lips
• Touching the lips or teeth with tongue
• Thrusting chest or breasts outward
• Mirroring or copying posture
• Crossing legs
• Leaning inward
• Open-legged posture

Other Behavior

• Any form of touching
• Playing with hands
• Fidgeting nervously
• Shy avoidance of eye contact
• Standing on one leg or shifting weight back and forth

Conversation

• Laughter
• Whispering
• Personal questions, especially about relationship status
• Singling someone out in a group for conversation and questions

However you flirt, keep in mind that flirting should indicate your interest in getting to know someone -- in a polite, respectful and tactful way.  Using cheesy pickup lines, being too aggressive, touching inappropriately or being in any way vulgar or rude will get you not only turned down but also probably slapped. Flirting is designed to make the person you're flirting with feel attractive and special, not intimidated.
Once you've established that someone is flirting with you – or your own flirting has gotten a positive response – it's time to start thinking about how to propose a first date. Mutual flirting of the type listed above usually means the other person is interested in getting to know you better. However, be wary of people who are flirtatious, even though they're in committed relationships. Some people either can't help being flirty, have an open relationship or simply don't care whether their partner is hurt by their behavior. While it can be tempting to flirt with this kind of person -- particularly if they're attractive, interesting and initiate the flirting – keep in mind that the point of flirting is to show interest in someone you'd like to get to know better, and people who're already attached to someone else are off limits.
Being confident about your flirting is the best way to make sure it is well-received. Nothing is sexier than confidence – nothing, that is, except someone who knows how to flirt effectively. Now get out there and start smiling!

MEANING OF DATING

Dating is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two persons with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. While the term has several senses, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.
The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country. The most common sense is two people trying out a relationship and exploring whether they're compatible by going out together in public as a couple, and who may or may not yet be having sexual relations, and this period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to engagement or marriage

Dating etiquette

Although dating etiquette has become more relaxed during the twentieth and twenty first century, there are considerable differences between social and personal values. Each culture has its particular patterns. For example, when an activity costs money (such as a movie or a meal), the man was expected to pay, particularly on the first date, in countries like the United States. More recently the practice of "going Dutch" (splitting the expenses) has become more common and acceptable. Conversely, among some cultures, such as the Karen people in Burma and Thailand, women are expected to write love poetry and give gifts to win over the man. Frequency of dating varies by person and situation; among single persons actively seeking partners, 36% had been on no dates in the past three months, 13% had one date, 22% had two to four dates and 25% had five or more dates, according to a 2005 U.S. survey. While equality between the sexes has changed dating, men are generally expected to ask women out and pay for the first date.

Unusual circumstances such as a river splashdown can bring couples together, including a man and woman aboard this flight.

Dating can be stressful, particularly since one is being evaluated while conducting an evaluation oneself, and some Internet email chatters have delayed meeting potential mates because of the stress factor of a romantic encounter with a stranger. It is a tough evaluation, and almost all daters will run into rejection or be ignored, but dating advisers counsel not to take it personally. There is a general tendency to avoid confrontations when trying to end a dating relationship; in Britain, 30% of all relationships are ended face-to-face, suggesting 70% are ended by not returning emails or phone calls, or by letter. Traumatic events can sometimes cause people to start dating; for example, two passengers aboard US Airways Flight 1549, which crashed in the Hudson River but without loss of life, began dating afterwards.

Flirting is generally part of dating. One study in 2010 of 5,100 people suggested that people have one of five basic "flirting styles": physical, traditional, polite, sincere and playful, and researchers advised that it helps to understand what one's natural style is.

A nature walk can be an ideal setting for a second or third date, like this one outside Clevedon, New Zealand. First dates should be in public places, generally, according to some advisors, particularly if the couple doesn't know each other well.

Dating advisers distinguish between the first date and subsequent dates. The first one should be simple such as going for coffee or after-dinner drinks, since a quick getaway may be necessary. Second dates can be more expensive and adventurous such as a dance or craft class. On all dates, the "key is conversation" so be relaxed and be able to chat freely; for this reason, dating at a movie is advisable only if followed by a drink afterwards. One dater in China found the language barrier to be a huge obstacle to romance "you have to be able to talk to someone.

Advice for men

Advice for men varies by culture and includes such issues as dressing neatly, being polite and positive, giving gifts, avoiding self-deprecatory humor, paying attention to your partner, and so forth. Some dating advisors offer a complete plan about how to approach and attract women which includes guidelines about what to wear, how to act, make love, and how to be confident. One dating adviser suggested that smart men have a tougher time dating, since they're more focused on personal achievements and expect love based on their personal academic prowess; sometimes they fail to consider less intelligent women as possible mates, and often lack romantic skills. One advised "quit thinking girls should like you because you're smart" and commented "a woman will like you based on how you make her feel ... so make her feel stuff - preferably good stuff." There is disagreement about how much of a financial role men should play in dating. One view is that men should pay for the dates, particularly for the first date; a contrary view is that paying for dates is equivalent to trying to "buy your way into a woman's favor" and is counterproductive. There is stronger sentiment that men should take the initiative in dating, and not let a fear of rejection prevent them from asking women out on dates.

Advice for women

In 1995 the book The Rules appeared. Columnist Maureen Dowd described it as a "dating bible" encouraging women to play "prefeminist mind games" such as "don't stay on the phone for more than 10 minutes" and "when you're with a man you like, be quiet and mysterious, act ladylike, cross your legs and smile" and to appear "busy and important."  Women can return to "hunting their quarry" but women are advised to play elaborate games to make men think that the men are the hunters when they're not. British writer Kira Cochrane of The Guardian found the book The Rules to be confining since it urged women to "laugh at all their date's jokes", never ask a man to dance, and appear "challenging" since "men are born to respond to challenge." Cochrane's problems with rules were that they relied on "objectionable, outdated notions of masculinity and femininity" and urge people to suppress their gut instinct, and they "make a game and a chore out of something that should be natural and fun and overwhelming."  But writer Bibi van der Zee, initially skeptical of the advice, tried it and found it made the men she dated "keener" to keep going out with her; she found herself to be "calm, unflappable" and, based on the advice, she would leave early on a date, appear busy, not phone him back.  While she worried about appearing to be a "game-playing bitch", she was surprised that the strategy worked; she married and became known to her friends as The Rules Girl.
Christian Carter in Paris Woman Journal counsels women to avoid making mistakes with men, such as trying to convince him to love you, expecting a relationship to make you happy, misreading men, and sharing deep feelings too soon.^[

Matchmaking systems and services

Dating systems can be systematic and organized ways to improve matchmaking by using rules or technology. The meeting can be in-person or live as well as separated by time or space such as by telephone or email or chat-based. The purpose of the meeting is for the two persons to decide whether to go on a date in the future.

• Speed dating. These organized matchmaking events have multiple single persons meet one-on-one in brief timed sessions so that singles can assess further whether to have subsequent dates. An example is meeting perhaps twenty potential partners in a bar with brief interviews between each possible couple, perhaps lasting three minutes in length, and shuffling partners. In Shanghai, one event featured eight-minute one-on-one meetings in which participants were pre-screened by age and education and career, and which costs 50 yuan ($6 USD) per participant; participants are asked not to reveal contact information during the brief meeting with the other person, but rather place names in cards for organizers to arrange subsequent dates. Advantages of speed dating: efficiency; "avoids an embarrassing disaster date"; cost-effective; way to make friends. Disadvantages: it can turn into a beauty contest with only a few good-looking participants getting most offers, while less attractive peers received few or no offers; critics suggest that the format prevents factors such as personality and intelligence from emerging, particularly in large groups with extra-brief meeting times.

• Video dating systems of the 1980s and 1990s especially, where customers gave a performance on (typically VHS) video, which was viewable by other customers, usually in private, in the same facility. Some services would record and play back videos for men and women on alternate days to minimize the chance that customers would meet each other on the street.

• Phone dating systems of about the same vintage, where customers call a common voice mail or phone-chat server at a common local phone number, and are connected with other (reputed) singles, and typically charged by the minute as if it were a long-distance call (often a very expensive one). A key problem of such systems was that they were hard to differentiate from a phone porn service or "phone sex" where female operators are paid to arouse male customers and have no intention of ever dating them.

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Dressing

Dressing
I don't know how you think, and if i did I wouldn't be on here.

Now when you want to get a guys attention, at school, at the mall, wherever, sure the less clothes does the trick, but looks dont always do you a favour, no matter how pretty you are.
When your with your boyfriend in public, or with his friends or family, dress appropritaly, normally. Be yourself because thats who you want him to fall inlove with

Now you've got that cute short skirt and top just lying around that you never wear in fear of people thinkin ur just being a s|u† to get your man to like you.

Well when its just going to be you and your boyfriend, its alright to wear those cuter clothes. Wear them becasue you want to and not because he would want you to.

If he really does love you, then what you wear or what you look like doesn't matter to him, but trust me, people may not want to say it, but looks do matter to a certain extent.

Top 10 Fun Things for Couples to Do in a Romantic Getaway

Are you planning a romantic getaway vacation with your significant other? If you want a great romantic getaway, you need to know these 10 fun tips we have for you on making the most of your trip and having the best romantic getaway ever!

If you really want to make the most of your romantic getaway, there are many different things you can do. We are going to share with you some of our favorite 10 fun things to do on your romantic getaway.

1. Play games together. That's right; we're not talking child's play here. There are many fun, romantic couple games you can play with your lover and it can make a fun and exciting pastime while on your romantic getaway. There are also toys and items you can buy to make this more fun or easier for you. Look for items such as seductive dice, glow-in-the-dark body paints and more.

2. A couple's massage. Visit a spa or massage parlor and get a massage together or spend some fun time alone and massage each other. Gather some books or videos on couple massage to learn how you can make each other feel wonderful.

3. Go skinny dipping. That's right; we said skinny dipping. If you haven't done it since you were a teenager, you've been missing out. What can be more fun and tantalizing than swimming in the nude with the love of your life? Just make sure you do it in a place that is clean and that is allowed. Don't try to skinny dip in a public pool, etc.

4. Eat an exotic meal. Have a fancy dinner together. Try a dish or cuisine you have never had before. Eat at an exotic restaurant or cook something new together at home.

5. Get pampered at the spa. Take a trip to the spa together and get facials, mud baths or some other relaxing treatments. It can be very romantic to do together.

6. Go diving/snorkeling together. If you are going to be on our romantic vacation somewhere near the ocean, look into companies that offer the opportunity to go snorkeling or scuba diving. This is a fun, exciting, romantic activity you can enjoy together and that you will remember for a lifetime.

7. Create your own adventure day. Using activities you have both thought about wanting to try one day or being able to experience, plan an adventure day where you strive to achieve these activities. Compromise and try out one another's romantic adventure ideas.

8. Have a caricature drawn. This service is easily available in most tourist locations. In other locations, you may have to dig a little deeper to seek them out. Have someone draw a caricature of you and your special someone. You will then have a fun and cute work of art to always remind you of your trip together.

9. Find an old drive-in movie theater. Locate a place that still shows drive in movies. Show up to one and make out in the backseat!

10. Role play. Another fun idea for your romantic getaway is to role play like you are really someone else. You can really get into your roles and buy or make costumes, give each other different names and more. Be creative!

The Top 10 Interesting Facts About Dating

1. The divorce rate among couples where the woman makes more than the man is 50% higher than among couples in which the husband earns more.
2. There are 25,000 to 35,000 polygynous marriages in the U.S.,mostly in western states.
The more polygynous the mating system the greater the differences between the sexes in terms of mortality.
Polygynous mating selects for males who take risks. Risk-taking traits lead to successful mating at the expense of a long life, i.e., the biggest buck wins the mating-fight, but will have more trouble feeding himself in a lean winter.
3. The #1 cause of divorce worldwide is infidelity.
4. The #2 cause of divorce worldwide is infertility.
5. The #3 cause of divorce worldwide is unkindness.
This can take the form of emotional and/or physical abuse,and may be the result of infidelity and infertility, or it can be a personality characteristic that is stable over time, involving lack of consideration for others, cruelty,selfishness, and irresponsibility.
6. Worldwide, wives who are less than 20 years old are morethan twice as likely as women who are more than 20 to be killed by a husband in a jealous age, regardless of the age of the husband.
7. 33% of women who have extramarital affairs consider their marriages to be happy, while 56% of men do.
8. Worldwide, women prefer to marry men who are older than they are and vice versa.
In Finland, Sweden and Norway the man is 1-2 years older. In Nigeria, 6.5 years older. In Zambia, 7.5 years older. In the US, men in their 30s prefer a woman 5 years younger; in their 50s, a woman 10-20 years younger. In the US, on average in the first marriage, the man is 3 years older; in the second marriage 5 years older; in the third marriage, 8 years older.
9. For the lifetime, men on average would like to have 18 sex partners, and women, 4 or 5.
10. Remarriage after death or divorce? In the US, 76% of women aged 14-19 remarry; 56% of women aged 30-39; 32% of women aged 40-49; and 12% of women aged 50-75.
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Teen Dating Violence Facts

PREVALENCE AND FREQUENCY
Teen dating violence runs across race, gender, and socioeconomic lines. Both males and
females are  victims, but boys and girls are abusive in different ways:
• Girls are more likely to yell, threaten to hurt themselves, pinch, slap, scratch, or kick;
• Boys injure girls more severely and frequently;
• Some teen victims experience violence occasionally;
• Others are abused more often…sometimes daily.
“Teen Victim Project,” National Center for Victims of Crime, http://www.ncvc.org/tvp, (Last visited 10/5/04).
A comparison of Intimate Partner Violence rates between teens and adults reveals that teens
are at higher risk of intimate partner abuse.
Jay G. Silverman et Al, “Dating Violence Against Adolescent Girls and Associated Substance Use, Unhealthy Weight Control, Sexual
Risk Behavior, Pregnancy, and Suicidality.” Journal of the American Medical Association, Vol. 286, 572, 576-577, (Nov. 5, 2001).
n Females ages 16-24 are more vulnerable to intimate partner violence than any other age group
– at a rate almost triple the national average.
U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence and Age of Victim, 1993-99 (Oct.
2001, rev. 11/28/01).
n Approximately 1 in 5 female high school students report being physically and/or sexually
abused by a dating partner.
Jay G. Silverman, PhD; Anita Raj, PhD; Lorelei A. Mucci, MPH; and Jeanne E. Hathaway, MD, MPH, “Dating Violence Against
Adolescent Girls and Associated Substance Use, Unhealthy Weight Control, Sexual Risk Behavior, Pregnancy, and Suicidality,” Journal
of the American Medical Association, Vol. 286, (No. 5, 2001).
n Among female victims of intimate partner violence, a current or former boyfriend or girlfriend
victimized 94% of those between the ages of 16-19.
U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics,7, (2001).
n Between 1993 and 1999, 22% of all homicides against females ages 16-19 were committed by
an intimate partner.
Bureau of Justice Statistics Press Release, “Violence Rates Among Intimate Partners Differ Greatly According to Age,” (10/29/01).
n In a study of gay, lesbian, and bisexual adolescents, youths involved in same-sex dating are just
as likely to experience dating violence as youths involved in opposite sex dating.
“Prevalence of Partner Violence in Same-Sex Romantic and Sexual Relationships in a National Sample of Adolescents,” Halpern CT,
Young ML, Waller MW, Martin SL, Kupper LL. Journal of Adolescent Health, Vol. 35, Issue 2, Pages 124-131, (August 2004).
n Nearly one-half of adult sex offenders report committing their first sexual offenses prior to the
age of 18.
Ron Snipe, et Al, “Recidivism in Young Adulthood, Adolescent Sexual Offenders Grown Up,” 25 Criminal Justice & Behavior, 109,
117, (1998).
Teen Dating Violence Facts